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C.S. Lewis: “Eros makes a man really want, not a woman, but one particular woman”

20 November 2015



“We use a most unfortunate idiom when we say, of a lustful man prowling the streets, that he “wants a woman.” Strictly speaking, a woman is just what he does not want.

“He wants a pleasure for which a woman happens to be the necessary piece of apparatus. How much he cares about the woman as such may be gauged by his attitude to her five minutes after fruition (one does not keep the carton after one has smoked the cigarettes).

“Now Eros makes a man really want, not a woman, but one particular woman. In some mysterious but quite indisputable fashion the lover desires the Beloved herself, not the pleasure she can give.”

– C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves

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  1. Dave permalink
    20 November 2015 12:33 pm

    Reblogged this on Jordanfel's Blog and commented:
    Lewis, powerfully, refashioned what has, sporadically, been spoken of in fashions like this for millenniums. Our genetics both lay the ground work, leaving tons of unused stuff that can be relaid. C. S. Lewis spoke of what as the healthiest expression of love becoming Eros, I have found.

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